Sgt. Largent wrote: chris98251 wrote: WmHBonney wrote:
Sgt. Largent wrote:Throwing more and more money at our education system will never work, because of one simple fact................student success since the dawn of the first school depends primarily on what happens at home, and not the school.
We already spend more money per student than any other country. What creates the failures is in the home. THAT'S where we should be focusing our resources and energy, trying to create stable home lives for kids and parents. Whatever that means.
Not saying we shouldn't continue to try new ways to educate and prepare our children for life, but continuing to just throw money at this problem is not the correct approach.
This. If a an education isn't valued by the parents, then the kids don't stand a chance. You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink.
So the Mom that has three part time jobs to make ends meet and is trying to provide a roof over her kids head doesn't care enough to go on Welfare get subsidized housing and stay at home to help her kids with homework and go to PTA meetings as well as parent teacher conferences. Ok.
Who said any of this?
Parents don't have to go to PTA meetings and stay at home and do homework with their kids to be great parents and raise responsible educated kids.
It sure helps, but it's not the difference between the success and failure of our education system.
Now if that mom doesn't make sure her kids did they're homework, and made sure they knew that the path to success ISN'T working three jobs and struggling? Then yes, she isn't doing her part in this discussion.
Be involved as much as you can, lead by example, be present, make sure your kids know how important education is, and what it means for opening doors to success. That's what I'm talking about. No one's chastising struggling moms.
You paint a picture with a roller and chastise all, I pointed out a typical example of some of the parents and what they do, that Mom may have been to school, hooked up with an abusive person and now is on her own. Survival is her priority and trying to provide, in between trying to make meals, clean and wipe little Johnnies runny nose she asks did they do their homework, or asks cousin Alice who is watching them for free to have an adult at home while she works.
As the job market gets more convoluted and people are doing multiple part time jobs this situation just gets worse, why people don't see what's happening is beyond me, those that have great incomes and a solid home and wife and all that goes with it should be considered the fortunate ones, one screw up and divorce papers and losing half of what you have and then the pay out for child support can wake a lot of women and men up quickly. Juggling both parent responsibilities and working and providing not to mention trying to allow the kids not to be affected by the break up is a lot harder then people think it is, something has to give and it is usually the time spent with the kids helping with homework and such, especially if you have three or more. Parent tries to cook dinner answer the phone and take care of household business while taking questions from her kids or trying to keep them on task.
Some kids can be self motivators and starters, others need a lot of work to get thru things, many would say then don't have kids, but life's roll of the dice can change in a instance, that dream of a white picket fence can turn into a nightmare for a number of reasons many of you know. I used a divorce, as a situation, but add a death or a life changing injury, a economic collapse of your career. Many things change what we have to do, and it goes back to survive first then other things.
The system is set up for the home support situation which is typically a two parent household, it has been that way for generations, the system doesn't match our current social structure.