Uncle Si wrote:Complicated.. it was 17 years ago. Many things have happened and people have moved in, grown. You are treating it like it was days ago and looking at it in thst lens. There has been a process.
You're asking to dig things up but I've yet to understand why. Not many are ignoring or blocking the conversation, nor the victims ability to speak if she wishes.
Again, you're arguing for a conversation that very few are arguing against.
Well, yesterday a reporter for the Washington Post got suspended for just Tweeting an article--and not just that, she received death threats. Hundreds of them. Another Twitter blue chip, an actress, got the same treatment when she said the guy was beloved, and a rapist, and could be both.
So clearly there are people invested in not talking about it.
And, from a victim's standpoint, the "process" of moving on ultimately rests on the inevitability that for them, it's always days. In that way, it cannot be moved away from. It's a tape that gets replayed daily. The process here involves decades of trying to block it out, maladaptive behaviors, trying to fix these behaviors, therapy and hopefully reaching some way to deal with the fact that for every day of your life, it'll be there. It takes decades, but still, the tape never goes away. And recognition of this is why the legal system and general public opinion has shifted since 2003.
Clearly, many Kobe fans were offended with the timing or even continued discussion of this. But there are tens of millions of people who relate to the experience of never getting justice. The discussion needs to happen.