OK, I'll drop the needle on my broken record...
The NFL is entertainment, not a court of law. If you are expecting justice to be served, well, keep on a-waitin'. The games are a Product, and we are the Market. As long as they are raking in cash, don't expect big changes.
Are the refs - by extension - manipulating the game for the NFL? Hard to say, but it sure feels like it sometimes. It's not as bad as the WWE or Reality TV, but it sure does seem like it's more than just poor judgement on the field. Or, in the booth. Or NY. Or whatever. It was really odd though how the booth announcers were praising the refs. Then again, I would never take anything serious from somebody named Booger. Hopefully the fad of having former refs justify the calls for the networks goes away. It also seems like a PR move by the NFL/networks.
I don't think computer refs are the answer. Might as well just throw some robots out there to play while you're at it. It's the human element that makes the game interesting. Otherwise, just go back to playing Madden.
I've given up on getting mad at the calls, because I feel manipulated and it ruins it. It's just part of the current iteration of the NFL. For better or for worse.
I would also guess that people who get REALLY ANGRY at the officiating week in and week out probably bet on sports or play fantasy football. Either way, here's another thread that has 30 posts of people arguing with each other, and talking sports on a day without a game. Mission accomplished, NFL.